An example, a worker was leaving work for the day. They were known to be very safety conscious and would actively ensure that fellow workers followed all the safety protocols and rules.
As this worker walked down the hallway to leave the building, their supervisor saw them and commented that they should not be wearing their sunglasses inside. (This rule was actually in the rule book). The worker removed their sunglasses and left for the day. This person felt insulted that their supervisor would comment to them on what they thought was a trivial rule and how dare the supervisor embarrass them since they were an advocate for preaching safety.
Several days later, this anger consumed the individual as they told several people this story and how angry they were that this happened.
As I heard this story, my response was the following: Chances are they know that they broke a rule and their true anger is at them self and not their supervisor.
This comes back to another posts called "Ownership, Versus Blame & The Victim".
We don't like it when people point out the obvious to us during the times when we know something was in our control and we did not do the proper thing. In those situations, we know what we did was wrong and we don't like hearing it again and again. Just like what happens in the clip below from "Office Space".
As an aside, the other funny part in this scene is how the main character is talking to two consultants who both have the name Bob, but when he talks to them, he refers to them as only one person. Bob.
No one likes to be wrong. Sometimes we like to blame others to falsely make ourselves feel better. But the anger will only consume us.
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